I've been kind of dating this Dual woman for a year and a half and we get along pretty well. Almost exactly as Duals are described as getting along. However, she texted me a week ago and said she isn't ready for a relationship.

What the fuck?

There is this set of behaviors in Attachment Theory in which a person needs to connect with someone, but the closer they get to the other person in the relationship, the more panicked the first person gets at the possibility of the other person leaving them. These people are called Fearful Avoidants, and I think this woman has it.

Their behaviors often result in the other person leaving them, which only confirms what they were expecting would happen all along. Even though they, themselves, caused the breakup.

It's pretty fucked up, let me tell you.