No.
Naw, this is coming from your own imagination (and whatever you
did to that.
).
I totally get her reactions, and I do see how they may seem jarring to others, and I see how it can be misjudged to seem some crazy thing by others. You are missing that she really is a Fi type and she does feel hurt deeply when treated unkindly. She might not seem like it when she is fighting back quite sharply (basically giving back what she has gotten), but its in reaction to having been hurt deeply, IMO. I am saying this not from any conversational feedback with her, but from my observation. (as an IEE Psychologist! I "get" these things.) And yes, INFjs do have this martyr-like side that appears certainly from time to time, but we all have our "sides" that raise others' brows at times, don't we? Better a martyr than an ogre, IMO.
Some have questioned if its because I am particular friends with Maritsa (whom I do like) or because she and I discuss these things that I defend her here. Its not that. Its this sense of justice that rears up in me when I feel that something is unfair, or that someone is maligned unjustly. That's when I don't mind a bit getting into the fray and saying exactly what I think is right and true. And at these times I can care less if people think bad of me forever for it. Standing for what is just and right means way more to me than that.
Anyway, nondescript, I think you and certain others here are misunderstanding because you are from a different quadra.
I was thinking recently how I have had reactions, internal quiet ones, that are negative about a person's words or actions, and then later I have more understanding of where he/she is coming from (and my type constantly seeks understanding, so I mull these things). Reading about how different quadras react to different quadras, I can see, in retrospect, how those initial reactions are in fact typical reactions that my quadra might have to that person's quadra. I was thinking of a particular example and I will post it in a Reinin thread concerning Merry/Serious, later.
And, as to reactions to people, I would like to explain something else. Temperament influences two parts of this:
1.
How quickly you get an emotional/judgmental reactionwhich is either on of these two:
a. a strong and immediate reaction
b. a slow burn that takes time to build up
2.
How long that emotional reaction lasts is either one of these two:
a. it wears off quick
b. it tends to stay and hold for long
There are
four basic temperaments, that also Jung used as a basis in his theories, and each of these has their feeling/judgment reactions that work in this way, according to the above chart I just made.
Sanguine - 1a & 2a
Choleric - 1a & 2b
Melancholic - 1b & 2b
Phlegmatic - 1b & 2a
This is not my own idea by any means, but my own way of explaining that which I previously learned. I am a Sanguine, so I have that STRONG emotional/judging reaction to a person or event at times. But as a Sanguine, I get over it, too. Its forgive and forget pretty easily in ordinary circumstances for me. As an IEE Sanguine, I keep my emotional reaction to myself so people don't always know I am having this big reactions to a thing (unless I can't hide! I can hide here when I write, but in person, if I cannot turn away and someone can sees my face, my face frequently betrays me! My feelings are there. If it pointed otu, I often will immediate minimize it. Because I prefer to keep my reaction to myself, particularly when its negative, because I know I usually get over it with time and understanding, and I DON't want to deal with the fall-out of things i said or did when I was upset. On the other hand, a SEE is a Sanguine, too, and they DO express their reaction. Also they are stronger in Fi, so they KNOW what they feel, whereas I need to think about it for a bit by myself ("
why did I react to that person like that? Is it really an offense? Or does it just remind me of some other bad memory? etc"). But in typical cases, the SEE gets over their initial reaction; does't hate forever eh person they first hated, i.e.
Once I saw a chart of each of the 16types lined up to which if the four temperaments they are. I don't know offhand which they all are. I will edit this and post a link it if I find it.
But question - nondescript: it seems odd that you consider her ESI... To you, does it feel as if Maritsa is a kindred spirit; that she thinks, acts, and communicates like you? That it seems as if you both stem from the same sorts of internal motivations? That her strengths and weaknesses are like yours? That correlation between you two is not something I have seen. I'm asking because it appears that you self-type ESI. (
Though I don't get an "ESI vibe" from you, but then, I am not saying I have my own other idea of your type, either).