Originally Posted by
Airman
By 'keeping on the bench' I mean not getting totally out of touch with a woman. I think you haven't considered cultural aspects here. If you were in Brazil you would see how crazy this society is. Everyone keeps people on the bench. People are very much hot-blooded, sex and relationships are a kind of must-have in this culture. Perhaps in the USA and Europe people put money as the first thing in their lives - money and job. Here money and job are secondary to sex, simple as that. It's a very promiscuous country. I've been dumped by women who kept men 'on the bench'. Usually of course the women only tell this to their trusted female friends and men do the same. It's a promiscuous, non-monogamous country. You are living in different cultures with some strong values regarding sex and relationships, values that I admire very much and would like to have them here, but it's impossible to change the culture you're in. It's like trying to install this crazy promiscuous sex-oriented culture in the USA, it cannot work. I have to be realistic regarding where I am. Like the saying goes, 'when in Rome, do as the Romans'. It's not something apart from my culture that me, the devilish minded sick person, am doing. It's how this culture works, I'm just following the pattern. It's an infantile country, a flerting culture. Relationships can be serious and work, but most people below 40 are just into this overall promiscuity.