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'cause they are mean, they are assholes, and they have no heart
they're confident in matters to the degree that they're separated from subjective impressions. yeah, they can position themselves well in tactical settings, find ways to get people to work towards their ends, etc.; but they actually seem to lack a lot of confidence in the significance of their actions, and whether they even make sense to them internally. this was confirmed yet again last week. I ended up giving a large amount of interpersonal advice to an SLE female who was having issues with a sappy, manipulative IEI boyfriend. ('advice' being, essentially: "act this way, to achieve this result"). the contrast between her certainty of control over him and the anxiety that manifested in something as trivial as the wording of a text message, was comical, to say the least. but it made sense, and in a way the 'dog on a leash' stereotype generally holds true, with all IxFp-ExTp pairings.
SLEs don't need a bolstering of confidence; more of an undercurrent to stabilize and guide their forays, which, despite being carried out with a tactical precision, don't naturally stem from any broader strategical mindset.
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Who is the dog and who is the owner w/leash? I think both? Also, it's sort of funny how instinctive SLEs/Beta STs who know nothing about socionics turn to me/IEIs for advice (and I them for... um... everything else?).
Ditto w/Redbaron (we do agree on everything), well-said. Especially in the tactical/strategic distinction, with strategy being the more long-term thing, even if SLEs are the absolute best in the moment achieving the proximate goal.SLEs don't need a bolstering of confidence; more of an undercurrent to stabilize and guide their forays, which, despite being carried out with a tactical precision, don't naturally stem from any broader strategical mindset.
Not a rule, just a trend.
IEI. Probably Fe subtype. Pretty sure I'm E4, sexual instinctual type, fairly confident that I'm a 3 wing now, so: IEI-Fe E4w3 sx/so. Considering 3w4 now, but pretty sure that 4 fits the best.
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I am grateful for the mystery of the soul, because without it, there could be no contemplation, except of the mysteries of divinity, which are far more dangerous to get wrong.
I was suggesting the IxFp as the walker and the ExTp as the dog.
IEI-SLE doesn't feel directly possessive, regarding the walker. I would even say that my "control" of Ms. SLE from the other week was remote in form, and basically entailed me lining up events and actions in her head so that she could act more effectively.
and yeah, it seems that a tenor of IEI-SLE relations consists of the IEI aiding the SLE in looking inward to assimilate and better organize happenings, and the SLE giving specific input or the necessary push for the IEI to move forward in a given circumstance.
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I don't know why people think SLEs are assholes. Really, I don't; I think this is probably one of the most blatantly misguided stereotypes in the entire socion. IME LSEs are more likely to embody this image of typical male jockery and chest banging and whatnot.
hah, why SLEs are assholes, probably all SLEs I've been friend with were assholes in one way or another
they're just assholes to people they don't like, and tend to make it clear, for efficiency's sake. also, the 'pushing' or 'testing' of others they sometimes exhibit, is just a direct way to gauge your relevancy/worth.
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I dunno, they can be goofy and sometimes don't think about what comes out of their mouths, but I find most of them to be pretty laid back. They are definitely conniving, if that's what you mean by "asshole" behavior, ie stealing shit, doing lewd things in public, not being afraid to cut corners and such to get what they want, but most of the SLEs I know aren't what I would call "assholes" in terms of how they treat people.
It most likely comes down to every quadra reflects their bad stereotypes on the opposing quadra, and this is only when you're aware of Socionics. When I read this title, I wanted to say something because I didn't think SeTi = confidence, or any other topical characteristic like that. And it was interesting for you to say that you found those stereotypes of TeSi, which I don't think is unique or correlative to either types in question
Well I have specific behaviors and impressions in mind when I say that; I'm not saying that LSEs are guilty of all macho behavior and SLEs are just cool cats or some shit. But, personally, when I think about behaviors that stand out to me as machismo-esque and hyper-typically masculine, I think more of things that I usually see in LSEs rather than SLEs.
I used to think the opposite until a bit ago; I attributed the above qualities to SeTi. It's possible that we assign different gender markers to certain behavior instinctively, but now, I don't really assign either traits to either types, mostly due to my recent view of stripping away topical traits like this from types. I think a lot of it also goes with me having a lot of TeSi friends as opposed to SeTi friends, which I have few. I know a couple of introverted TeSi, and ones that seem more maternal than masculine. I'm also finding there are a lot of knee-jerk typings I made in the past based on this, that because they were hyper-masculine in a way I disliked, they were probably SeTi or TiSe. Upon really looking into it, masculinity and femininity can be interpreted through Socionics type, but not caused by.
Let's just say they both like chains.
Actually I would say that an interesting aspect of IEI/SLE, and perhaps to a degree all Se/Ni quadra relations, is that both parties feel "in control" of each other in the manner that each desires; nobody is really "in charge" but the IEI is able to emotional and mentally "guide" the SLE, reigning them in when necessary, while the SLE takes charge of the practical side of the relationship and makes sure everything keeps moving forward.
Some SEEs act pretty macho.
Naaa they're far too gentle to be boisterous like that. The whole point of male jockery is Beta taking the piss out of people mentality. Yes there will be LSE jocks. But the gang-up mentality is like the ultimate stereotype of a Beta mindset.
lol
I'd do her
Actually on second glance, it's a toughie... Definitely got sex appeal and a nice bod.
So yeah I probably would.
Actually she has a FIT BOD
I piss on SLE's.
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Because they can be. It's because they are strategic and aimful.
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Dual type (as per tcaudilllg)
Enneagram 5 (wings either 4 or 6)?
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
SLEs are confident because I am the boss. Not because SLEs are the boss but me, me specifically. Every SLE ever is confident because I am the Boss.
Easy Day
On a more serious note, I think that while most of the answers in this thread are endearing because they focus on a SLEs abilities (I.E. They are confident because they can do blah and are tactical and all that mess) they, while not at all wrong, aren't entirely the case.
So I will attempt to explain why I am confident, but not why or even if this applies to every SLE ever. Cause I don't really know if it does.
Anyway, I'm not confident because of my past achievements. Or at least that's not all of it. So obviously my confidence can't rest entirely in my own ability since you need to have some sort of ability to achieve anything. I think it's more along the lines of "Ignorance is Bliss". For example I don't know how anything I'm going to do is going to play out in the future so in any given scenario I can only do the thing that I think is the best course of action and since I don't really know how what I am doing is going to affect my surroundings I just assume that since it was the best thing I could think of that it's going to go well.
That makes sense... Right?
Easy Day
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Dual type (as per tcaudilllg)
Enneagram 5 (wings either 4 or 6)?
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
See, with this tone and statement you made, my Se PoLR just hit ground 0 in strength. It makes me want to shoot back with "don't ever tell me you are anything" -Sorry, just wanted to give an example of conflict relationship dynamics. It's very confident but not delta humbleness at all...lol. Maybe you are very humble but not self assuringly to others humble.
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Dual type (as per tcaudilllg)
Enneagram 5 (wings either 4 or 6)?
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
Because there's no reason not to be. That's how you get shit done. Fortune favors the bold. Decide what you want and then get it. Straight up tell people when there's a problem. Sitting around wondering about whether you can or can't do something is useless. Just go for it and see what happens. If you fail, so be it. Learn from it and move on. Have fun. Enjoy the ride. When there's a problem, address it. Force of will won't answer everything, but it'll get you somewhere one way or another. It's a matter of volitional force, I suppose. This doesn't sit well with everyone, but that's fine. Their minds and lives are their responsibility, not mine. And you can't please everyone.
they're not very confident about feelings, relationships, new and novel ideas, or long term strategic planning. they are confident in the here and now and about getting stuff done in the near future. about people's capabilities and motivations. it's a mistake to say that SLE is a superman. it obscures their humanity quite a bit.
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those who are easily shocked.....should be shocked more often
This is Ni PoLR; so you can't possibly be ESTp
As INFj I give reassurance about how things will play out and through that the pressure on Ni PoLR is lifted so to say or "covered", Ni has to do with events in the flow of Time and how that is perceived in a flow. So because of poor understanding of the flow of time you take care of immediate tasks at hand.
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Dual type (as per tcaudilllg)
Enneagram 5 (wings either 4 or 6)?
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html