Taking stock
Hi. I promised I'd be back at least one more time to explain a few things about what I'm doing these days and some experiences I've had.
First of all, I've been in a relationship with a clear dual Ij-Fi for about 7 months now. It's strange, definitely not perfect, but it feels right. I'm content. Our relationship has four modes. INFj-ESTj, ISFj-ENTj, ISFj-ESTj and INFj-ENTj. It's very clear in daily contact when the mode changes, and it changes many times per day. Reinin criteria work perfectly to predict the events surrounding this. Relationship explanations are also very good. We act like duals or like semi-duals. Model A is the least useful, but not completely useless. Model A is only useful in describing the psychological stress when one is trying to act one way and receives feedback that one should change one's behaviour. The sex is good. It also changes from her being the aggressive one and me the victim, to her being infantile and me being a caretaker. We both prefer the latter and our relationship is moving towards a more stable INFj-ESTj partnership slowly.
I'm about half way through my residency and I feel I can call myself a surgeon these days. My current place of employment has noticed that I have some skills in managerial work and they are acting as if I was the boss of the entire department. It is slightly amusing but very useful.
In my current place of employment the closest people I have and with whom I find it most useful to have constant congress are: ISFp, ENTj, ENTj, ESTj, ISTp, ESTj, ENFp, ISFj. The only persons who annoy me are ESTp and INFp. The INTp stresses me out. I manage fine with the ENFj and ISTj and I find myself even liking the ISTjs these days. I find quadra theory to be only partially correct and again that Reinin criteria are better at explaining the relationships I have and that they give me daily concrete help in managing my work place.
I thank everyone here, you have been good studymates. Even you Expat (though you're still just plain wrong about most things). Once and for all I'd also like to correct something. The system that I support was not created by me. It is essentially Reinin's and Gulenko's system with just a couple of tweaks. I do not spend my time creating such systems and living through such is anathema for me. By my nature I'm an investor and a worker sometimes, rarely, a bit of a romantic. My life is chaotic and almost completely disorganized and completely anathema to ISTjs. Being forceful or swearing are not indicative of Se. That connection is a lie.
I feel old and a bit tired. But I believe there's still good times ahead for me and everyone else. For now, I'm going to concentrate on perfecting my work skills. One day I will stop taking things seriously and start living an ESFj life again, move to New Zealand buy a villa and start clubhopping or something.
That's it for now. I feel I'm retiring this thing, and I feel happy at the situation at which I'm doing so. So long and thanks for all the fish (Not promising I'll stay away but consider this my final message until proven otherwise).
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